Tuesday, July 08, 2008

A note about perspective

It's amazing how hard it can be to keep things in perspective when you're going about your every day life and routine. Pete and I both got home from work last night feeling stressed and overwhelmed by our respective jobs, but by the end of the evening realised how crazy it is to be stressing out about how to make a website or pattern the most amazing thing ever.

It's funny how easily you get caught up in the rat race... and how your ideals about how life should be get dictated by what your peers have or what you see in an interiors magazine. Sometimes I can really see why people choose to abandon all that to go live out in the country with a wide sunny veranda and a self sustaining garden.

We really are lucky to have what we have - health, family, friends -how come it's so hard to just stop and appreciate that?

No images today - trying to stop myself from not posting purely because I have no pics (whoa double negatives galore :) ).

27 comments:

Rebecca said...

Ah so true! What's that lovely phrase - stop ans smell the roses...count your blessings and all that. It's good to pause now and then and appreciate life - helps with creativity too :)

CurlyPops said...

I absolutely agree....I used to subscribe to all of the interiors magazines and then get depressed because my house didn't look like that and I couldn't afford any of it! So I cancelled them all (except Real Living) and now I love my house again....although it would be better if it was out in the country with a nice wide verandah!

Lexy said...

I love your perspecive! How much did I need to hear the "it's just work - get over it" idea, after my last two days. It's all sorted now at least, But UGH! What a horrible time.

But, you can't be creative, or happy, if you're stressed. So why bother eh? Sounds good to me. (Easier said than done, but WORTH a try!!)

I do live in the country (sort of - well, there WERE cows going down the street yesterday) - but no verandah or self-sustaining garden yet. There are plans though!

And your patterns ARE the most amazing thing ever!! So don't worry about 'em :)

[www.lexy.typepad.com]

Fer said...

It seems that at this time of year it's so easy to get into a rut, or just go into hibernation mode!

Thanks for reminding us to stop and smell the flowers for a moment.

:o)

msd said...

Ahhh, your post reminds me of a book called Status Anxiety by Alan de Botton. It's not self-help (eek) it's philosophy (popular philosophy I guess? Not hard to read). He talks about modern stresses and the anxieties that come with that feeling of wanting to "keep up with the Joneses" so to speak... I found it interesting.

That's if you have time to read a book!! :)

Heather Moore said...

I know, I know. But I bet that even on the verandah, there are stresses (beetles on the vines, leaks in the roof). It's the human condition to be dissatisfied, and our constant pursuit of satisfaction is stressful because our condition is unchangeable. Sigh.

Michelle said...

I always say I work to live, not live to work. Of course now I don't work at all! But the last 17 years of work have shown me what should be a high priority and what shouldn't be. When I find another job, it will be at a lower level, and hopefully part time at that.

Nikki said...

I know EXACTLY what you mean. We look at where we COULD be and feel that we SHOULD be there... but at what cost?

Thanks for reminding me, too, that life, love, and laughter are what it should be all be about. Count your blessings not your sorrows and all that...

paisleystclaire said...

I think its a trap for creative people, the more successful you become the more pressure you put on your self to do better and better. It starts to suck the fun out of why you even started doing it. I dream about the house in the country too.

this chicken said...

Oh so true! Taking a step back and a deep breath every so often does a whole world of good.

I've started to bite my tongue recently when I feel negativity ready to leave my mouth. If it's not important, leave it, forget it.

Focus on the happy things ;)

Sidsel_._ said...

I agree it´s hard when your hobbies become your work - because then you are always ON. Well I hope this won´t bring negative vibes - just thought you should see it since the trees look a little to much like one of your designs...
http://www.growhousegrow.com/collection/
All is well!

subliminalrabbit said...

Amen! We're in the process of moving and it feels like every little thing is a HUGE stupid deal... When we should really just be trying to enjoy the process and go with it. And having a full-time job doesn't help. Your post is SO timely to me!

daisy janie said...

I completely agree. It's sad that it takes trials & tribulations in life to come to that realization, but I think that's the only way to really "get" perspective. Not just attain it but really understand it and incorporate it into your life. Kind of like yin and yang...can't know how the good and simple without the bad and crazy. I feel so sorry for people who can't take a step back from themselves and enjoy the little moments.

valentina said...

but you stopped to realize it and take a breather. that's something. it is hard, and everybody showing off their wares and achievements (put ""around both), does make one feel ... small. You have your audience, and small as we are, we love you ;-)

Cicada Studio said...

It's true, it is about perspective. I'm happy to have my own, even if I feel on the brink of a melt down now and again. I'm so fortunate to have all the wonderful things I do. I don't take that for granted.

ShiriMe! said...

better late than never. sometimes - no, all of the time - it is easy to forget these things. i've only been on my internship for a month and already i'm swamped with work. it gets chaotic trying to see every client who comes in needing housing or clothing or glasses and having those meetings take up your full day but still needing the time to get those resources for them. and then i become stressed for lack of time.

it is very EASY to lose sight of things.

but hey, as i started the note saying, better late than never.

it is so grounding when the realization comes upon you. and it keeps you grounded for a while. but hey, we're only human.

take care of yourself lara!

Karin said...

Heya.

I showed you this the other day but thought maybe your other readers would be interested.

This gives everyone a real dose of perspective. Amazing and heartbreaking all at the same time.

http://www.travelblog.org/Asia/Cambodia/South/Phnom-Penh/blog-293530.html

lindsey clare said...

i agree with so many of the comments already made. it can be so hard to distance yourself from the pressure of society and find that balance between working hard and also letting you. us creative types are not immune!

p.s. i second Status Anxiety too, if you haven't read it.

Stephanie said...

So true. It all is about perspective.

habitual said...

Amen to that.

It doesn't sound like you've lost perspective at all , and your post is a gentle reminder to all.

I've been thinking the exact same thing lately, and can't help but feel like my life is on the wrong path, a path in the middle of the rat race. And I want off.

If you get any leads on the wide veranda with a self-sustaining farm, do pass them along! ;)

this chicken said...

Hi Lara! Just wanted to thank you for visiting my blog and leaving a few comments!

To be honest, I don't know much about Gocco printing other than the bits and pieces I read on blogs. I understand it is pretty difficult to get hold of the 'machine' and accessories/paints that go with it. Never-the-less if the opportunity arises I'd love to have a go at it. I'm pleased you think some of my drawings would be suited to it. I may look into this further.

I love your blog by the way, it is one of my must-reads!

Do Yeah Media said...

great post lara. I recommend reading the book 'Affluenza' by Clive Hamilton. the perspective it gives is frightening.

Marian said...

funny thing is that I did just that...stop the craziness, move to a small town, big garden with veggies and flowers. Slower pace.... and Ive never been happier in my life. Maybe I had it in me to begin with...
Good luck to you!

www.florcita.nl

katiecrackernuts said...

I've just come back to work and am pretty amazed at how everyone keeps buck-passing for work not done while I was away. Oh, please, send some perspective my way (so I can beat my colleagues over the bloody head with it).

nikkishell said...

True true! I just finished reading 'How to be Free' by Tom Hodgkinson. I highly recommend it.

greenolive said...

I have gone to live in the country with a wide sunny verandah and a self-sustaining garden (potatoes and spinach so far), but it isn't the cure all for lack of perspective, but it does help a bit. For me perspective comes when I realise what makes me happy.

Adrienne said...

I live in the country with a nice wrap around covered deck, and so from first hand perspective it's great to read the mags and see what's happening around the world - and it's great to ditch them too. No matter where you live it's just amazing to have the knack for being creative and having the opportunity, facilities (internet, etc) and family to help you out with your perspective (especially when you loose it for a few moments). Keep up the great work!